Dear Rita,

I'm 24 and in a long term relationship. My fiance and I have been together for three years. Last week I took a pregnancy test and found out its positive and we are not ready for a baby. We are just getting our masters degrees and looking forward to a few years of travel and being together before starting a family. We always use protection but the condom must have broke. I am so confused and depressed. I have always been pro-choice but now that its me in the situation I don't know what to do. Please help.

Bad Timing

Dear Bad,

I'm so sorry to hear of your predicament. There are lots of women who have been in your situation and websites you can check out for support. You and your fiance need to sit down together and go over what terminating this pregnancy will mean or won't mean to both of you. It is not an easy decision but one that is ultimately yours. Adoption is another option. Keeping the baby may also be something you decide to do, going to school full time and being new parents won't be your easiest alternative, in any way, but may be the most rewarding. Depending on how far along you are, these are your three options, find the one you are most comfortable with and don't look back. Good Luck.

Rita